Is Courtship Allowed in Islam???

Many young people are curious about the issue of ‘pre-marital relationships’. To satisfy this curiosity, the simple answer to whether or not they are permitted is ‘NO’. In Islam pre-marital relationships ,despite the kind, between members of the opposite sex is forbidden. In much of the world, the concept of ‘dating’; where a young man and woman are in an intimate relationship, spending a great deal of time alone together, without a third party present, is encouraged and practiced. What does Islamic Law say about this?
It was related that the Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) said, “Not of you should meet a woman alone, unless she is accompanied by a relative (mahram)” (Bukhari/Muslim). It was also reported, that the beloved Prophet said, “Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan (Shytan) is the third among them” (Tirmidi).

Human beings are known as weak creatures, Particularly in the areas of lust, romance, love and emotion. Thus Allah (swt) has commanded us in the Qur’an (Surah 24:30-31) to “lower our gaze and guard our private parts...” This ruling should not be viewed as repressive or unfair, rather, it should be viewed as a form of protection against our popular ‘tendencies’. What youths don’t seem to understand is the seriousness of a ‘lustful gaze’.

*Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) said that the eyes also commit adultery by looking at someone with lust [Bukhari].

*Abu Hurrirah (r.a.a) narrated that Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) said that “Among the seven persons whom Allah will shade in His Shade on the Day (of Judgement), is a man who is tempted by a beautiful woman and refuses to respond, for fear of Allah." [Bukhari&Muslim]

Brothers and sisters in Islam, we are afraid for you ,as you should be for your own selves! The signs of the Day have been emerging and are amongst us! We have very little time to better ourselves, to step back and objectively take a look at our practices and dedication to Allah in all that we do. We must aspire to become the kinds of Muslims that would please our Merciful and Benevolent God.

Sisters, do not disrespect your bodies, and more importantly, your Lord. Do not allow men to violate that which Allah (swt) has made beautiful for you and has commanded you to GUARD!!!
A non-Mahram male has no right or reason to kiss you, to hold your hand, to hug and embrace you, or to have any physical contact with you, whatsoever! Your husband and ‘direct’ family are the only people who possess this right.

Yours Truly Here At

Concerned Youths (at Youth of Islam)

Assalamu Alaikum and

"May Allah (swt) continue to guide and lead us

towards the right path..."

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